|Filed for Divorce||11/8/2006||--|
Children of this Relationship
|Ava Elizabeth||09/09/1999||17 yrs.||Female||Biological|
|Deacon Reese||10/23/2003||13 yrs.||Male||Biological|
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Relationship Information, Quotes, and Trivia
Where and/or how did Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe meet?
Ryan & Reese met at her 21st Birthday Party in March 1997.
Why did Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe break up?
There was no specific reason for the break up however the couple had been going to marriage counseling for years.
Other Relationship Information about Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe:
Ryan popped the question to Reese while vacationing in Charleston, SC at The Planter's Inn, a romantic B&B, while serving her waffles with strawberries and cream in bed.
Reese cited irreconcilable differences as the reason for divorce.
Classic Quotes by Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe about their relationship:
"It's really daunting, but I think it would be really spoiled of me to sit here and say, 'Oh, yeah, I don't want people to know anything about my personal life. There are sacrifices you make in this business, and some of them are fortunate, and some are unfortunate." Reese Witherspoon 3/21/1999
"I think you're my birthday present." Reese Witherspoon 3/1997
"We've done that in the past, and it's always struck me as odd that people grabbed onto that story and made it sound so negative." Reese Witherspoon 2005
"[The divorce was] very humiliating and very isolating. [But], if it's not painful, maybe it wasn't the right decision to marry to begin with. Those are the appropriate emotions...[Friends tried to tell me], 'This will pass.' You think, 'Are they crazy? I'm never gonna feel any better than I feel right this minute. And nothing's ever gonna make sense again.' And I still have moments where I'm like, 'Nothing's ever gonna make sense again'...It's a really easy thing to [blame your husband], and I'm certainly guilty of it. [You have to] look at yourself and go, 'What part of this do I need to own? Which part of this is my responsibility?' And that's the painful work that you have to go through to hopefully get some real-life knowledge out of it...You're not in control of everything. You control very little. That was a revelation. Changed my life." Reese Witherspoon 3/2009
"In what capacity is working on yourself or your marriage a bad thing? What marriage isn't a journey?...Nobody's perfect... We all have our own set of problems." Reese Witherspoon 12/2005
"I think if anybody rests on the idea that they are perfect or their life is perfect or their relationship is perfect and is so troubled about destroying the facade as opposed to getting to what's real, that is troublesome." Reese Witherspoon 12/2005
"[Going through the divorce was] a difficult and frightening experience." Reese Witherspoon 9/2007
"There's nothing contentious about any of it. And it's not that formal. It's all very go with the flow, whatever happens in the moment." Reese Witherspoon 12/8/2008
"It was just the thrill of my life...Sometimes I feel like the youngest mom in L.A. I really enjoy being a wife, and I really enjoy being a mom. But it's a lot more challenging than I thought it would be." Reese Witherspoon 4/11/2002
"When you find somebody who you really click with and you know it's right, I think that's more of the thing...you can't deny that and it doesn't really matter how old you are. If people sort of feel passionately about someone, then that's a good thing." Reese Witherspoon 7/8/2001
It's good to go to a premiere and then come home and change diapers. I was a neophyte as far as babies are concerned. Ryan's mom ran a daycare center when he was a kid, so he can diaper in nine seconds flat." Reese Witherspoon 9/5/2001
"My daughter is so excited [for a new sibling]. She's making lots of preparations around the house. The other day she told me, 'Mommy, the baby needs something. Cheese snacks.' We had to go to the store and get lots of cheese snacks." Reese Witherspoon 5/8/2003
"We've had a couple of scenes [in 'Vanity Fair'] where my [pregnant] stomach was peeking out a bit, but we've found solutions." Reese Witherspoon 6/9/2003
"I'm trying not to eat too many potato chips. That's all I want to eat. Potato chips and hamburgers. On the first pregnancy I gained a lot of weight. I'm trying to be better this time." Reese Witherspoon 7/2/2003
"It's something that I'm always open to. I was just happy if it happened. Ryan's really excited about having another baby. And I'm really excited. And Ava's more excited than both of us. She's dreamy about it. She likes to prepare her room for when her brother or sister comes. I think she'll be a great older sister." Reese Witherspoon 7/2/2003
"When I had a kid, it clarified a lot of things to me. I'm not a supercool person. And I've never had the most friends. I'm a mom and a wife, and that's what I like to be." Reese Witherspoon 7/2/2003
"I certainly have my share of help, but really, Ryan and I enjoy being parents. It's great for Ava [that we don't work on movies at the same time], because she always gets full attention from one parent. I love taking her to school and participating in snack time. I get jealous when other people get to spend time with my kid. When I work, it's hard, because I know she doesn't want to hang out on the set all day for 18 hours. But then I get these great extended amounts of time, like six months or a year, just to be Mom. I feel very lucky." Reese Witherspoon 7/2/2003
"[My pregnancy] made the emotional scenes [in 'Vanity Fair']really easy. I was very hormonal, so that was good." Reese Witherspoon 8/23/2004
"Sometimes I think it's a little cleaner to, at least at this stage in our lives, keep that stuff separate. I'd never write anything off completely, but I just feel like there's something to be said for the individuality and mystery of doing things on your own. [Being away from my family is] a difficulty that I don't know if I will ever totally come to terms with. But I think I commit sometimes even further to a role because it leaves me less time to think about those things that make me feel sad, like not being around my children. [It's] a shield or a protective blanket that keeps me from having to deal with the reality. If I can't see my kids, and I'm in another time zone, I really have to live and eat and breathe the work around the clock, because that keeps me sane. At times, yes, [I distance myself from Reese]. But because she does the same work, she completely understands." Ryan Phillippe 10/24/2006
"[Working one-at-a-time is] one of the ways we keep the balance. [But] there are obstacles in every family...It's never going to be perfect. You just try to do the best you can and to create a life that is positive and full for them. Ava just turned 7 and just started first grade. I've been down in Austin making this movie, so I had the whole conversation with her where I'm getting guilted. She's like, 'You've missed my first day of school two years in a row.' She gives me a harder time than Reese, by far." Ryan Phillippe 10/24/2006
"The biggest mistake is not doing that, ignoring it and having the marriage fall apart because of laziness." Ryan Phillippe 2002
"I'm not interested in the fallacy of the Hollywood relationship: 'We have perfect children who never cry; we never have problems; we never argue, we're always best friends.' That's just not true. We're normal people with normal problems." Reese Witherspoon 2002
"Our relationship, we try to figure out, and this business makes it more difficult." Ryan Phillippe 10/16/2006
"I'm not a perfect person, but I'm not guilty of a lot of the things I have been accused of. My priority is and always has been the health and safety of my family...Look, [I] went out, she went out, it wasn't a point of conflict." Ryan Phillippe 11/8/2006
"She is great at what she does. I'm proud of her." Ryan Phillippe 10/2006
"Reese is a happy, lighthearted person. I tend to be considerably darker. She keeps me from getting dark and depressed, and that's so essential in a business that's based on uncertainty and insecurity." Ryan Phillippe 1999
"This is the most difficult time in my life. I must stay focused on my kids. I have not found balance in my life yet. It's unfortunate when you have kids...but I signed up for this and have to deal with it. I don't read the magazines or watch the shows...It's hard when people follow me to my kid's school. I acknowledge that the successes and the opportunities I've had recently have been the best of my career. I've got to say it's the last thing on my mind right now, considering what I'm going through in my personal life, but I definitely appreciate the opportunities. I did three movies in the last year and a half and I'm going to take a good long break and be a dad. So that's number one on my mind right now." Ryan Phillippe 2/5/2007
"Right around Christmastime I was sitting in a parking lot and I felt like I just couldn't get out of the car. It was like, I can't get out of the car. I thought, 'Okay, half of the parking lot has dealt with this. More than half of the parking lot has dealt with this. Okay, let's make it a little bigger. Half of this city has dealt with this. Okay, let's make it a little bigger. Half of this country.' Until I finally got out of the car. There's this moment in 'Walk the Line' where June Carter says, 'I was never aware of how much I was seen.' I was very aware of how much I was seen. It was this moment of self-discovery and loss of identity and who was stepping out of the car, you know? Who is that person?...Oh, come on, man! I wouldn't be able to do what I do if I were [always in control]. I wouldn't be able to have the empathy or the capacity to understand different lives." Reese Witherspoon 9/11/2007
"Like every working parent, I sometimes feel that there are not enough hours in the day. But overall, I'm very fortunate that my job has a lot of flexibility. I spend a lot of time with the kids, just around the house. They're still pretty young, so I feel like what I can mostly do is listen to them and be there for them. I worry about my kids growing up and how the world might hurt them. But at the same time, I absolutely do not worry about them growing up, because they have great values and a great sense of self...[We watch] game shows like the new 'Crosswords' and 'Deal or No Deal.' And 'Are You Smarter Than a 5th Grader?' is very popular in my house." Reese Witherspoon 1/11/2008
"[Our divorce was] the darkest, saddest place I had ever been. There were a good four or five months of not being able to get out of bed. It was the worst time in my life. You get through it. It's a process that's not easy, but I get less and less sad about it every day. I certainly understand the level of interest that comes along with a public marriage, and with being married to someone like Reese, who so many people love with good reason. People want answers. But I think sometimes they wouldn't be happy with what the answers would be. [The reason we divorced is] far more complicated and far less interesting than it's made out to be. To look and search for these salacious reasons, to pin it on a person, or a moment in someone's life, it's not realistic. [We] have done a really good job at keeping things peaceable and completely focused on [the children]." Ryan Phillippe 2/11/2008
"I fooled myself into believing it would be easier than it was. To have people speculating constantly about the state of your relationship, casting aspersions and telling lies...It took more of a toll than I was immediately aware of. [Ava's] aware and it creates in her a lot of anxiety, which is partly my fault. When Ava was very young, I was young too. I'd get...visibly angry at the paparazzi back then. She was my first child, and my instinct was to protect her...Since [Deacon's] birth I've realized that you've got to make it seem like less of a big deal. Ava to this day, though...It breaks my heart to think about it, hearing her say, 'My friends at school saw a picture of me in a magazine and they made fun because I was carrying a blanket.'" Ryan Phillippe 4/20/2008
"You don't see the blended-family Christmas very much [in movies]. And it really is a complication in a lot of people's lives now. I didn't grow up like that. I mean, my parents are still married, and my grandparents stayed married, but it's a situation my own children will have to deal with." Reese Witherspoon 10/14/2008
"I'm very happy for both Reese and Jim [on their engagement]. I wish nothing but the best for the mother of my children." Ryan Phillippe 12/2010